Archive for the ‘Emotions’ Category

The Pain of Loss

What do we do when the pain is too great?

Nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!

So many are experiencing the pain of loss right now and my heart goes out to all of you.  

-The loss of a loved one

-The loss of our health and the potential for death

-The loss of a partner through ending of a relationship

-The loss of a job or career

-The loss of a home

-The loss of love

-The loss of financial investments

-The loss of courage

-The loss of hope

What do you do when you experience loss?  Write them down now.

I often want to physically get up and run away or drive away as if some how I can get away from it.  I want to cry and cry and get rid of all the painful feelings.  I want to hide and never come out.  I want to talk and share with someone I trust.

How To Love Yourself

Fall in love with YOU!

Make lists of  all the wonderful things about you. Keep adding to it every day.

These are simple words of wisdom from a cancer survivor that knows it is part of any healing.

Know that you are perfect. Do not think any negative thoughts about you.

Know that you are worthy and deserving of anything and everything you could possibly want in your life.

This isn’t something we were taught and socialized with.  But we can remember that feeling as a very young child.  Can’t YOU?

Every single relationship you have is a reflection of how you feel inside about you. You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings. Every relationship you have and every interaction with every person, is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings in that very moment.  Jaffee

Can We Learn Compassion?

Can we learn compassion?  Some people are naturally more compassionate, while others seem to walk away or have no feeling what so ever.

Why is compassion so evident in some and not others?

Read these words of wisdom from a couple of researchers looking for scientific evidence to these questions. 

Compassion Meditation Changes The Brain
ScienceDaily (Mar. 27, 2008) —

Can we train ourselves to be compassionate? A new study suggests the answer is yes.

Cultivating compassion and kindness through meditation affects brain regions that can make a person more empathetic to other peoples’ mental states, say researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

This study was the first to use functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to indicate that positive emotions such as loving-kindness and compassion can be learned in the same way as playing a musical instrument or being proficient in a sport. The scans revealed that brain circuits used to detect emotions and feelings were dramatically changed in subjects who had extensive experience practicing compassion meditation.

Why is Compassion Healing?

‘Compassion is a profound human emotion prompted by the pain of others. More vigorous than empathy, the feeling commonly gives rise to an active desire to alleviate another’s suffering.”

When I was healing and was a complete emotional mess, compassion was a invaluable gift.  Those that were truly able to feel my pain and listen and be there for me were like angels from heaven.  My heart was so heavy and I felt completely lost and alone.  It was in those moments that I really learned what compassion was.

When I was in the deep dark hole and didn’t know if I could climb out, compassion helped lift me one step forward.

“Compassion is that which makes the heart of the good move at the pain of others. It crushes and destroys the pain of others.” – The Buddha.

Self-Love from a Dying 12 year old

 Marlese was a twelve year old girl who died of muscle cancer.  Dr. Lerma in his book, Into the Light shares her story.  Here are her final words of wisdom.

Marlese left me with these final words from what she learned from the four angels assigned to her:

“ To entertain dishonesty, what is not good or not helpful from others or oneself, only feeds our ego. This act in turn and unwisely crafts a form of guilt within our soul, which forces one to veer from the one thing that will destroy it; that is our free-will to self-forgive and self-love.

The constant lies that our self-centered ego tells our spirit or soul is purely for its self–preservation. It has no consideration for bringing us joy, love and forgiveness. The ego, also known as our sinful nature, stems back to the story of Adam and Eve. It was their ego, the same ego that exists in us, which lead their spirit to defy God’s request.

Forgiveness and Letting Go

Let go & let your higher self be in charge. This is the quickest and easiest path to complete peace in a hectic world.

When you let go of negative energy in negative situations, it makes room for peaceful and positive energy. Negative and positive emotion cannot occupy the same space, so you must let go of one, to experience the other.

Forgiving another usually means you have let go, and it is you who gains the benefit of letting go.once you realize this, you will never hang on to useless negative emotion for long periods of time. Look at children, they never seem to hang on for long, they let go very easily, then completely forget.

Try and make a conscious decision today, to let go. Watch your emotions and interactions with others, and take control of yourself. Stick to the conscious path of self observation, you’ll be glad you did because the rewards are tremendous.  I guarantee it.


Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that
we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are
powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness
that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves,
“who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not
 serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about
Shrinking, so that other people won’t
Feel insecure around you.

We are born to make manifest the
Glory of God within us.

It’s not just in some of us.
It is in everyone.

And as we let our light shine,
We unconsciously give other people
Permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Marianne Williamson


Let Go and Heal

Letting go of expectation takes tremendous courage because it can be our expectations that become the foundation of our lives.  When we begin to know who we really are and then embrace the physical, mental and emotional me, we can let go of the expectations we have for ourselves.

What are the expectations you have for yourself?

What happens when you don’t meet those expectations?

We spend so much time, beating ourselves up for what we did and what we said and even what we were thinking in our heads.  When we can drop that and know that is not who we really are, we can take a step to do the next thing. 

Often experiences come into our lives that are unexpected.  “I didn’t want that!” “Why did this happen?”

Could these experiences arrived to assist us to awaken a stronger awareness to love?

Wisdom of Loving Others

Once we truly love ourselves unconditionally, we can then love others.

What does that mean?  “I love others! Even though I may not always love me.”

We are born into this universe from one source, I call God.  (Others use different words meaning the same thing)  We all come from the same source.  If we all come from the same source, we must be part of the whole, part of God.  If we are all part of God, we are all part of each other too.  This is where the wise teachers of the past, refer to for example, “We are all part of the body of Christ”.  Or ”We are all ONE”. 

We are all one if we came from the same ONE!

So how can we truly love another, child, friend, sister, mom……………….

If we don’t love ourselves………………….

It is the same thing, we are the same thing…….We are all one!

How to Love Yourself

Fall in love with YOU!

Make lists of  all the wonderful things about you. Keep adding to it every day.

These are simple words of wisdom from a cancer survivor that knows it is part of any healing.

Know that you are perfect. Do not think any negative thoughts about you.

Know that you are worthy and deserving of anything and everything you could possibly want in your life.

This isn’t something we were taught and socialized with.  But we can remember that feeling as a very young child.  Can’t YOU?

Every single relationship you have is a reflection of how you feel inside about you. You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings. Every relationship you have and every interaction with every person, is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings in that very moment.  Jaffee

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