Throughout our lives we have developed expectations of what we think should happen, or how we think our life should be, or how someone else should act…..the list goes on.  It is part of our human nature and has become a habit of ours.  We place expectations on everything.

It goes against our old habits not to have expectations.  But can we drop expectations?  What if we did?  What would happen?

We pray for our desires of what we truly want for our lives to be perfect.  Is this different than expectations?

Could one be coming from our heart and another be coming from our mind?   Maybe, I don’t know.

Dropping all expectations may free some of us from thought, worry, analysis, fear, etc.  The very things that can block us and stop us from moving forward.

And just watch your life as a neutral observer.  Watch your thoughts, watch your emotions, watch your physical body….stand outside of these and just be the observer with no judgement or expectation.

When you become the observer, you no longer identify with the mind….you are no longer the mind.

This creates space between YOU and the mind and the emotions.  This space allows the energy of the thoughts to diminish and eventually stop controlling your life.  Because you are not these thoughts or emotions.  You are an energy or a spirit far greater and more powerful.  You are just trapped in your mind and emotions at times and get lost.

Be the OBSERVER and create space to connect to you natural power within…YOU

Have you ever heard of it?

Has your doctor talked to you about what to do to prevent this contagious disease? 

Let me give you just one example of this disease….

Something troubling or even disasterous happens to you or someone you love.

You begin to think about all the things that happened and how it could have been prevented.  Or you begin to think about why it happened or what if or what you could of done different.  This mind thinking continues until you don’t even know you are doing it.  It becomes part of you life every day even at night while sleeping.  You can’t escape it.  It becomes obscessive and the disease grows out of control…….

Don’t ask why, it creates more and more and more suffering.  You seldom find the answer and it will keep you in pain
and suffering forever.  And the disease continues.

It is your mind that creates the suffering and dis-ease.  Separate from your mind and there is no suffering.  Begin to watch your mind do its thing, thinking, thinking, thinking……the mind is not you.  You are the one watching!!! Become the
watcher or the observer. 

Practice this.  Practice deep breathing every day by yourself for 5 to 10 minutes with absolutely no thought.

We get lost and begin to believe we are the mind and we can go crazy.

If you are in a dangerous situation what happens to you, how do you feel? For example think of a time when you almost had a car accident and in a split second you were safe. What happened to your body, your breathing? Your muscles tense, your heart races and beats faster, and your breathing is fast.

This is your body’s natural instinct to react with this fear. This is instinct. Emotions now are similar but different. They are your body’s response to a thought. So for example you are begin to worry about your daughter who hasn’t come home and you begin to think about the freeway she is driving on and then imagine a horrible accident. Your heart beats faster, your muscles are tense and your breathing is faster.

 To the body a thought like this of fear and worry means danger and the body responds accordingly. “Although the body is very intelligent, it cannot tell the difference between an actual situaltion and a thought. It reacts to every thought as if it were a reality.” Eckart Tolle

This is all a mental game, not real, but it is producing a lot of bodily functions to change. Over time what happens to all this negative energy in our body?

 I had to learn this lesson to survive my cancer. My mind was controlling my life, my health, my body, my spirit. And all the thoughts were not even real. As a cancer survivor speaker I use my story of learning this and healing to help others see and feel and change their thinking too.

Are you trying to change, manipulate, fight against, struggle, analyze, what is right now?

What is happening right now….It Is What It Is…..

It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we perceive it….

It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we react to it….

One part of me, my mind, tries hard to figure it out and tries to think it out and tries to talk it out.  This is my habit that I created when I was four or five years old.  I remember being free and knowing all is well!  Then I went to my mind at age six thinking this was the answer to fit in this world we live in…………..big mistake…………….big lesson!

When meeting a moment that we don’t want or don’t like ….the first thing that happens is we resist it.  We compare that moment to that which we imagined, and if it doesn’t match up, we resist it or fight it.

Moments are absolutely neutral.  Its our perception of it.  We compare it to something we were hoping for or something we know.

We are attaching ourselves to that which didn’t match up, that which we didn’t want.  And we all know we create more of the thing we give most attention to.   When we resist a moment we are actually attaching ourselves to the moment and to the mind that created it.

So events like this reveal to us that which we don’t want…..ALL IT IS , IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN WHAT WE WANT OR DON’T WANT.  It is perfect design….it is a tool for us to learn and grow… to wake up.  To see and make a choice.

We can get caught up in the moment and completely forget to step back….we become the moment, attach ourselves to it and then drag that dreadful moment with us sometimes for years or a life time.

Instead of attaching to it and becoming it, step back and observe what it is showing you.  Use it as a moment of revelation. 

 It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we perceive it….

It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we react to it….

Its your choice………………Learn more about Being The Observer…Check out Living From The Heart

How could that be?  Did I really create my health, my cancer, my brokedness, my lonliness, my LIFE????

It is hard for us to really grasp this concept of creating our own life.  It tends to be a bit more comfortable to believe life happens to us.  Especially when BAD things happen.

This is a story of one of my experiences and a great example of how I created this CRAZY experience!! 

“Then the reality hit….I am alone in this darkness and I am scared to death!

What could I have possibly been thinking?  Staying in a stick hut all by my self, in some foreign country, in the middle of a jungle, with murders, rapists, burglars, wild animals………………………….

As the travel fatigue increased, my mind accelerated………………………….

Looking at the door I realized anyone could knock it down.  The three inch gaps between the sticks offered a perfect opportunity for someone to reach in.  The candles flickered and shadows paraded across the walls of my hut.  Was that a person shadow or a palm tree shadow?

Ridiculous!! I was creating all of these crazy thoughts.  This wasn’t real, I was creating them!  Then I began to believe it!  My mind was taking over my reality and who I was.
I knew it, so I watched it.  I watched my mind create horrible thoughts over and over.  I felt my body unable to relax and sleep.  I felt my emotions vacillate between terror and desperation.

WOW!  This is what we do in our lives. 

In the midst of the fear, I had stepped out and became the observer.  I reconnected to my heart and my true self.  And I saw clearly how we all do this every day in our lives.  We allow our minds to become us.  As I rested in my heart space, I was calm and drifted off to sleep.

As my eyes cracked open, peering through my bug net over my bed, the beautiful blue sky greeted me.  The birds were singing and the aqua sea reached as far as I could see.  The palm tree outside my hut gently stretched in the wind.  The beauty is overwhelming. 

I lay in my tented bed pondering life and the horror of the night and the beauty of the day.  What is real? 

Lesson one of my adventure was felt deep within my heart.  The mind creates all our suffering.

This was an experience for me to explore and be adventurous.  In reality this was going to be a tremendous opportunity for growth and transformation.  If I choose……………”

What are the expectations you have for yourself?

What happens when you don’t meet those expectations?

We spend so much time, beating ourselves up for what we did and what we said and even what we were thinking in our heads.  When we can drop that and know that is not who we really are, we can take a step to do the next thing. 

Often experiences come into our lives that are unexpected.  “I didn’t want that!” “Why did this happen?”

Could these experiences arrived to assist us to awaken a stronger awareness to love?

“When we choose to let go of our expectations we are opening ourselves up to receive, believe, allow, and experience the wisdom of each moment. Within your life live with freedom from expectation through your willingness to experience what is available to you to nurture love. awakening wisdom, courage, and love within your actions.”  Genie O’Malley

Within the wisdom of each moment, you are aware to choose and experience anything you want.  MAGICAL!

Tips: 

Focus on the wonderful things in every person. Look for only those things.

Do not blame or criticize anybody, ever.

Free yourself of the responsibility of trying to make other people happy. Respect and love them enough to allow them to take care of their own happiness.

Get your attention off those things in others that don’t make you feel good

Do not expect others to behave in a way you want, so you will be happy. Release yourself forevermore and know that you alone control your happiness and it is a choice, no matter what anyone else is doing.

Let go of any and all resentments from the past you may be holding of everyone and everything.

Never criticize or blame yourself or anyone else for anything!

Words of wisdom shared by your cancer survivor speaker, please pass it on and spread the love.

Little did I know where this journey would end.  I guess I still don’t, and it doesn’t matter.  I am learning to enjoy the adventure.  Resting in the knowingness that the perfect experience will happen today or NOW.

This new year began with a knowingness from within to start cleansing my physical body.  I followed my heart and had no idea where this journey would take me.  At the time, I had no plans for a trip to Tulum.  I only felt a need to clean out the old and begin putting clean, healthy nutrients back in a clean body.

When we remove the old (no matter what it is) there is room available for the new.  This is true in cleaning out old clothes, or dealing with a painful experience, or facing a negative relationship, or any experience in life.  The cleansing began to prepare the way for removing  the old and making room for something new.

When we listen and trust God leads us and guides us on our journey.  I was ready to listen and trust that my next step would be provided.

I was cleaning my intestines and colon and eating good organic food, when the opportunity landed at my door to go to Tulum.  See the first Tulum Story. 

My body was prepared for the experiences in Tulum.  I was able to physically endure the exercises including yoga, pilates and cardio.  I was mentally clearer to be present.  Being present in conversations with the other women, with yoga, or my healing sessions, or in the sweat lodge all allowed me to truly be there and experience it.  I was clearer as emotions came up I was able to feel, see and experience them.  So I could let them go forever.

A calm and peace appears as we are present and connected to God and our true self.  This awareness is comforting and peaceful.  We are able to see and know things we didn’t before.  Answers to questions appear, and guidance on decisions is available. 

So this was an amazing plan.  Not a plan I was consciously aware of, but a plan that I trusted and followed.  Tulum was a healing and growth process.   I feel as if I shedded another layer or layers of “stuff” I have been carrying around this human body.  As I shed more “stuff”,  New “stuff” arrives.  I anxiously wait for more new stuff.  What do I mean by stuff???

Well new exciting experiences are coming my way, new rewarding relationships, new opportunities to do what I love, new opportunities to help other people, new information I never heard about……..the list goes on and on.

This is life! So let’s enjoy the adventure together!

My heart hurts for them.  I feel their pain and sadness.  I remember being at that very place and time in my life.  I lived it too.

Then I want to shout from the rooftop, “They can be a cancer survivor too!”

As a cancer survivor and speaker, I want to share with everyone the hope available to them, for them to reach out and grab. I want to tell them all the information available for them to heal body, mind and spirit.  I want to share the natural cancer treatments for a cancer survivor.  It is energy spilling out of me as I meet people.

And then I stop (and let me tell I don’t always stop) more on that later………..

Not everyone is ready to hear. Not everyone is ready for a cancer survivor story. I know each person has their journey to take and I pray they find peace on that journey.

I want to be their friend and help them.

Barb Harris tells how our mind affect our entire being.

“Mind-states affect our biology: being optimistic and resilient improves immune function and counters stress.  Spirituality makes us healthier, including listening to our hearts, clarifying our values and beliefs, and living according to them.  To be truly healthy is to be energized and vital, living with purpose and feeling good in our bodies.  It is loving life and celebrating our true nature.”
       ~ Barb Harris
Editorial Director, Natural Health Magazine, October 2003
 

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