Throughout our lives we have developed expectations of what we think should happen, or how we think our life should be, or how someone else should act…..the list goes on.  It is part of our human nature and has become a habit of ours.  We place expectations on everything.

It goes against our old habits not to have expectations.  But can we drop expectations?  What if we did?  What would happen?

We pray for our desires of what we truly want for our lives to be perfect.  Is this different than expectations?

Could one be coming from our heart and another be coming from our mind?   Maybe, I don’t know.

Dropping all expectations may free some of us from thought, worry, analysis, fear, etc.  The very things that can block us and stop us from moving forward.

And just watch your life as a neutral observer.  Watch your thoughts, watch your emotions, watch your physical body….stand outside of these and just be the observer with no judgement or expectation.

When you become the observer, you no longer identify with the mind….you are no longer the mind.

This creates space between YOU and the mind and the emotions.  This space allows the energy of the thoughts to diminish and eventually stop controlling your life.  Because you are not these thoughts or emotions.  You are an energy or a spirit far greater and more powerful.  You are just trapped in your mind and emotions at times and get lost.

Be the OBSERVER and create space to connect to you natural power within…YOU

If you are in a dangerous situation what happens to you, how do you feel? For example think of a time when you almost had a car accident and in a split second you were safe. What happened to your body, your breathing? Your muscles tense, your heart races and beats faster, and your breathing is fast.

This is your body’s natural instinct to react with this fear. This is instinct. Emotions now are similar but different. They are your body’s response to a thought. So for example you are begin to worry about your daughter who hasn’t come home and you begin to think about the freeway she is driving on and then imagine a horrible accident. Your heart beats faster, your muscles are tense and your breathing is faster.

 To the body a thought like this of fear and worry means danger and the body responds accordingly. “Although the body is very intelligent, it cannot tell the difference between an actual situaltion and a thought. It reacts to every thought as if it were a reality.” Eckart Tolle

This is all a mental game, not real, but it is producing a lot of bodily functions to change. Over time what happens to all this negative energy in our body?

 I had to learn this lesson to survive my cancer. My mind was controlling my life, my health, my body, my spirit. And all the thoughts were not even real. As a cancer survivor speaker I use my story of learning this and healing to help others see and feel and change their thinking too.

Are you trying to change, manipulate, fight against, struggle, analyze, what is right now?

What is happening right now….It Is What It Is…..

It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we perceive it….

It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we react to it….

One part of me, my mind, tries hard to figure it out and tries to think it out and tries to talk it out.  This is my habit that I created when I was four or five years old.  I remember being free and knowing all is well!  Then I went to my mind at age six thinking this was the answer to fit in this world we live in…………..big mistake…………….big lesson!

When meeting a moment that we don’t want or don’t like ….the first thing that happens is we resist it.  We compare that moment to that which we imagined, and if it doesn’t match up, we resist it or fight it.

Moments are absolutely neutral.  Its our perception of it.  We compare it to something we were hoping for or something we know.

We are attaching ourselves to that which didn’t match up, that which we didn’t want.  And we all know we create more of the thing we give most attention to.   When we resist a moment we are actually attaching ourselves to the moment and to the mind that created it.

So events like this reveal to us that which we don’t want…..ALL IT IS , IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN WHAT WE WANT OR DON’T WANT.  It is perfect design….it is a tool for us to learn and grow… to wake up.  To see and make a choice.

We can get caught up in the moment and completely forget to step back….we become the moment, attach ourselves to it and then drag that dreadful moment with us sometimes for years or a life time.

Instead of attaching to it and becoming it, step back and observe what it is showing you.  Use it as a moment of revelation. 

 It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we perceive it….

It is what it is….the only way we make it anything is how we react to it….

Its your choice………………Learn more about Being The Observer…Check out Living From The Heart

What do you think?

This is a question that we could ponder, analyze, discuss and never intellectually grasp the answer.  Intellectually the mind cannot grasp the depth of the question or answer.  When we think things out we use such a limited aspect of our selves.  The mind is limited in its capacity to search the depths of our entire being.  The mind wasn’t created for this.  The mind is used in our finite reality of the world, not the infinite of the universal mind.

The universal mind as I talk about it here is the ALL…is the everything….is all of energy….is God.

And this is beyond the mind, beyond thought or belief…

So a spiritual solution to healing disease in some way, is beyond our mental capacity.

1.  Develop a spiritual practice so you can experience your higher self…your God-self………..

There are many paths and practices to connect to this awareness of your true being. Choose one and consistently practice it and apply it, to access this place of awareness to yourself-your God-self.  So you can experience your God-self in every moment of your life.  This is where miracles happen….. This will restore you to the truth…the truth of who you really are.

Below is an excerpt from DavidPaul Doyle and Candace Doyle’s book, The Voice for Love: Accessing Your Inner Voice To Fulfill Your Life’s Purpose.

“God’s Voice within you is not a word or a term. It is a Presence, a state of Being, a way of thinking that gives you the experience of Who and What you truly are … of what your True Nature is. It does not matter what words you use to describe this aspect of yourself, this quality or state of Being. It is merely to call It something so that you can put your attention on It. You can call It the Holy Spirit, God’s Voice, the Voice of your true Self, the Voice for Love and Peace within you, or any other name you like.

In Truth, this Presence or state of Mind is your Voice, and yet who you think you are in the world is usually much less than what this Voice truly is and what You truly are. You think you are a person walking around in the world—possibly a husband, a partner, a friend, a business associate—and you become identified with these things, with these forms and concepts. It is possible to use the term Highest Self when thinking of this Voice within you, and yet for most people, the term Higher Self would be associated with a wiser aspect of their personality, a part within their heart or mind that is more connected with Truth or with the big picture. For some, the term Higher Self might even be the voice of their own soul, and yet few would believe that they are much greater than the concept of a soul and that their true Voice is much grander than that of their soul. One still perceives them self to be separate, and for many, the highest concept that they can come up with for who they truly are is that of an individualized soul. The Truth is, you are much grander than that. You are, in fact, One with your Creator, One with All That Is, One with this Voice for God within you.”  click here to learn more about the Doyles

If this is true…..which my experience with stage 4 melanoma, says it is…..

Is there a Spiritual Solution for Healing and Disease???

If we are one with God, are we not powerful enough to heal??

Go get my book, Song of My Soul and learn more about how I found my connection to God.

This week I had the wonderful opportunity to spend an hour with Julia Rogers Hamrick on Truly Alive radio talking about living in Easy World.  The time we spent felt like five minutes.  The energy was explosive.  It even crashed her computer while we were doing the show.  These are signs….signs of what you ask…..Living In EASY WORLD!

It was fun, exciting, easy, flowing, joyful, informative , loving and giving all the things life is meant to be.  This is exactly how life was meant to be for ALL of us ALL the time.  Whoo hoooo!

So what is Easy World?  These are Julia’s words…………….

“Easy World is the reality matrix set up to entirely support your well-being and harmony with the Whole of Creation. When you are in the Easy World reality, harmony and ease prevail and things work out as if by magic. Easy World is the home of what we consider to be “magic,” but magic is nothing special in Easy World—it is normal. Underlying Easy World is the Divine Design for Harmony and Wholeness.

Easy World is a powerful magnetic force that is continually pulling you to it. As long as you relax and allow yourself to align with Easy World, you are there. The only way to be out of Easy World is through resistance—through not allowing it. Whenever you focus on difficulty, fear, or anything not aligned with Easy World, you automatically align yourself with Difficult World and are pulled out of Easy World. But re-entering Easy World is…easy! It’s a simple matter of relaxing and allowing the power of Easy World to pull you back into alignment.

The magic phrase for bringing yourself into the Easy World reality is “I choose to live in Easy World, where everything is easy.” Or, simply, “I live in Easy World.” This is useful when your ego mind, the aspect of you that is resistant to Easy World, needs to have something tangible to use to shift the focus from Difficult World to Easy World. While you will very likely find other favorite techniques and phrases that work well for you, this is the phrase provided to Julia by Divine Intelligence and has proven to be consistently effective.

There is absolutely no struggle, worry, or effort in Easy World. In Easy World, everything is taken care of smoothly and with ease. Anything you do in Easy World is motivated by inspiration from the aspect of you that is in perfect alignment with Source. This Wise You is completely aware of the Whole and what actions coordinate perfectly with the Divine Design for Harmony.

Only harmonious, inspired, easy action factors into Easy World. In Easy World, you always know what to do and when to do it by paying attention to when you feel energy motivating you from within, and when you do not. If you do something that is not inspired, you are simply no longer in Easy World.

Shoulds and ought-tos and other fear-based motivators, are not Easy World phenomena. If you are not inspired and energized to act, it either means that: 

it’s not yet time to do whatever you are perceiving needs to be done
or, it’s not yours to do and someone else will be doing it
or, it doesn’t need to be done at all.

In Easy World, you only take action when you are inspired to and are feeling no resistance to doing whatever it is.

If you find yourself struggling, worrying, trying to figure things out, trying to control or otherwise engaged in difficulty, you are no longer in Easy World.   Easy World is self-monitoring.  By virtue of your alignment, or lack thereof, with the principles of Easy World, you are either choosing to be in it or out of it.

Struggle of any kind, including worrying, means you have left Easy World and is a sign to use the Easy World invocation (“I choose to live in Easy World”) to return.

Easy World is accessed by relaxing, letting go of control (or the illusion of it), and knowing that everything is working out just right. Easy World is set up to always support you in having the harmonious, easy, joyful experience you desire—all you have to do is allow that to come to fruition.  Allowing is key to being in Easy World.

Easy World is a present time phenomenon. You can’t be in Easy World when you are focusing on potential difficulty (future) or your experience of how things didn’t work out at sometime in the past. When you are out of Easy World and finding yourself in doubt, it can be beneficial to remember how things have worked out for you in Easy World at another time as a technique for returning to Easy World, but when you are in Easy World itself, you are focused in the moment.

A primary sign of being in Easy World is the experience of joy. Joy and ease are constant companions. When you relax, trust in Divine Timing and Order, and allow the Universe to operate on your behalf to support your well-being, joy is guaranteed. If you’re experiencing anything less than joy, you know you are in Difficult World.

Joy is the emotional state that prevails in Easy World!”

This was a Divine message Julia received, much like my message of “Heal the Whole Body Mind and Spirit.”

These messages are real and there are many messengers along our journey to help us, to point us in a direction.  We can choose to listen…..What will you do?

I have written about this and believe what Julia describes is our natural state of being.  How we were born to live……Through our life experiences we have forgotten and can’t always hear the message.  Julia is a gift to us.  She brings an often hard intellectual concept (if we make it so), to a simplistic, EASY form.

Thanks Julia, you are a messenger of God.

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We need our mind to use and function in this world.  We just have forgotten how and when to use it.  We have come to believe we are our mind.  All the thoughts that exist have always existed in the universe.  There are no new thoughts.  We just keep thinking them over and over.  Then through time we have come to believe these thoughts and live by all these thoughts and NOW have become these thoughts.  As we have become these thoughts, we have lost ourselves.  We no longer can remember who we are.

Your thoughts are not to be avoided.  You don’t need to try so hard not to think them or to meditate them out.  Your thoughts are to be loved and understood.  When we try hard to change we are fighting against what is part of our existence.  Fighting against always creates more of the very thing.

We don’t want to kill thoughts, we want to embrace and love them.

We as human beings are the balance of human and being.  The human self is the physical self that expresses itself in life.  It is your mind and ego self that is essential to living each day.  We need this part of us to do all the activities we engage in every day.  We plan and set goals, work, conduct meetings, manage our households, etc using our mind.

The being part of you in your true nature, or who you really are.  It is your heart or soul or consciousness, connected to all, to God, to the universe.  It is the stillness within.  It is the connection to the wisdom within.  It is YOU!

Your ability to access the stillness within you, this consciousness, will allow you to be in this place and then choose when to use your mind.

When you use your mind and your thoughts, ego or human self, to live in the world and be the stillness, you have balanced your human and being.  This is when life works for you and you can create what you want.

When we are able to use our mind and thoughts in our life, but stay present to who we are, we will experience peace and freedom.

See your mind for what it is and know YOU!

To heal, to be whole, to live in peace is what we came to experience. 

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For so long I thought I was my body, but then there was me watching my body.  If I was watching my body, my body wasn’t me.  I was someone outside of my body.

 I also would watch all these crazy, scary thoughts go through my mind.  I would start thinking about cancer growing through my body, and what if it had spread to all my organs.  What if my cancer had spread to my brain?  Is this the end of my life here?  What is going to happen?  Am I going to suffer terribly in pain?  My poor kids, they didn’t need to see their mommy wasting away and being eaten up by cancer. 

If I wasn’t careful, these thoughts could take me away for a long time.  It is as if the thoughts actually had life or energy themselves, because they kept going.  It almost seemed that they were growing.  Could that be?

Now you think of a time when you were thinking, thinking, and thinking.  Many times it happens as you are trying to go to sleep and you can’t stop your thoughts.  They take you over sometimes for hours or all night.  With those thoughts come worry, fear, anger, anticipation, guilt and many other emotions that don’t feel good.

These emotions have energy too, that flows through you.  If it is negative, think of all the negative energy flowing through you at a time you want to be peaceful and sleep.

As I watched my thoughts, I realized I couldn’t be my thoughts or my mind, because I was watching them.  I was something other than just my thoughts.  I was not my mind.  Who was this ME?

If I was not my body and I was not my thoughts, then I was something outside of them or something other or in addition to them.  If that was the case, then I must have some control or power over my body and my thoughts.  I was something other than my thoughts or my body.  I was body, mind and spirit.

I knew then I had control over my destiny.  I could change my physical body, my thoughts and emotions.  I realized I was more powerful than I ever knew and I had control over what I experienced.  For my entire life, I had thought life was happening to me, that it was outside of me.  I didn’t think I could control what happened to me and what I experienced. 

Then I remembered what Jesus said, that life was at hand, inside all of us.  He said heaven was within each of us.  Is this what He was trying to remind us of?  Had we really forgotten?

God is within each of us.  God says we were created in the likeness and image of Him.  He is in us and us in Him.  We are part of God.

So was this me observing the different parts of me, part of God?  Was this the piece of me that was God?

WOW!!  If that was true…..I knew anything was possible!

What are the expectations you have for yourself?

What happens when you don’t meet those expectations?

We spend so much time, beating ourselves up for what we did and what we said and even what we were thinking in our heads.  When we can drop that and know that is not who we really are, we can take a step to do the next thing. 

Often experiences come into our lives that are unexpected.  “I didn’t want that!” “Why did this happen?”

Could these experiences arrived to assist us to awaken a stronger awareness to love?

“When we choose to let go of our expectations we are opening ourselves up to receive, believe, allow, and experience the wisdom of each moment. Within your life live with freedom from expectation through your willingness to experience what is available to you to nurture love. awakening wisdom, courage, and love within your actions.”  Genie O’Malley

Within the wisdom of each moment, you are aware to choose and experience anything you want.  MAGICAL!

Tips: 

Focus on the wonderful things in every person. Look for only those things.

Do not blame or criticize anybody, ever.

Free yourself of the responsibility of trying to make other people happy. Respect and love them enough to allow them to take care of their own happiness.

Get your attention off those things in others that don’t make you feel good

Do not expect others to behave in a way you want, so you will be happy. Release yourself forevermore and know that you alone control your happiness and it is a choice, no matter what anyone else is doing.

Let go of any and all resentments from the past you may be holding of everyone and everything.

Never criticize or blame yourself or anyone else for anything!

Words of wisdom shared by your cancer survivor speaker, please pass it on and spread the love.

I truly believe what will set us free to live life joyfully and in peace is loving ourselves and others unconditionally.

When everything else is stripped away, nothing else matters, and all there is left is love.

I remember laying in my hospital bed, crying uncontrollably after hearing the news of my cancer diagnosis.  With such fear crawling through my entire being, I was lost and alone, but yet it all seemed so clear at the time.  Nothing really mattered except love.  Love for and from all the people around me. 

Why is it so hard to love ourselves and others unconditionally?

Let’s start with loving ourselves.

As a tiny newborn baby through our toddler years we are love.  That is how we were created, as pure love.  Then through socialization into this world we begin to receive messages from our environment.  If we cry, there is a response.  If we laugh there is a response.  If we are hungry there is a response.  If we touch something breakable there is a response.  Those first years we are learning what these messages mean.  Then through actions and words we begin to respond to our environment based on the rules that we are learning.  We slowly move away from that pure love of our spirit and to our outside environment.  We slowly forget that our true self is love, peace, freedom and begin to believe our actions and thoughts are who we are.  Our environment or everything outside of ourselves seems to make the world go around.

We begin picking up messages that become the rules we start to live our life by.  For example, I am good if I do this and am bad if I do that.  Millions of messages we receive and stockpile and become who we think we are.  Then we carry these messages around with us for years.  With these thoughts are emotions.  Sadness, anger, depression, pain, etc. associated with these experiences are filed away within us.  All of these emotions become the files from which we use to live our lives.

More tomorrow………………………….

Why do we go through our day and react and respond to others with judgement and anger?

Then WHY do we carry it with us all day, and all week and sometimes even for years?