In My Sister’s Keeper, each individual of Ann’s  family was experiencing their own loss and with that all the emotions that accompany it.  Even as parent’s, they couldn’t really see what was happening to Anna and the internal turmoil and external pain she was trying so hard to cope with.  Their only son was lost and forgotten and living in a world unknown to them.  Kate was consumed with pain and guilt for what she was causing her family and especially her sister, Anna.  They were so focussed on Kate and keeping her alive, at all costs, they were unaware of the real “dying” all around them.

When we lose our awareness of this moment, we actually disconnect from what is real.  We are unaware of words, actions, feelings around us.  We are consumed by our mind.  Our mind takes control of our life and then we become our mind.  If we are fortunate to wake up, we wonder HOW DID THIS ALL HAPPEN? 

We saw this played over and over in the movie with Anna and her entire family.  Any tragedy or loss in life can send us in a tailspin.  Its as if we go unconscious………..and we actually do, completely not present and aware.  How powerful and creative we will be when we are able to stay conscious and aware in these moments of tragedy.

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When Kate’s kidneys fail, Anna is expected to donate one of her own.   It took Anna to hire a lawyer to be medically emancipated from her parents and gain the right to make the decision herself. Her lawyer, Campbell Alexander, works for her pro bono.

At the end of the book, it is revealed that the reason Anna initiated the lawsuit was that her sister didn’t want her to donate the kidney; Kate was tired of being sick and was ready to die. After the trial, Anna is granted medical emancipation but just as she is about to reveal whether she will donate, she suffers a closed head injury in a car crash and is left brain dead. As Campbell Alexander has power of attorney for Anna, he agrees to the donation.

In the epilogue, it is revealed that Kate survived the transplant, although doctors had thought she might be too weak. Kate believes that the reason she survived is that Anna took her place in heaven.

So who really has the right to decide what is best for us?

Who decides our purpose on this earth?

What is your purpose?

Lots to ponder….

Every human soul comes to this earth with a purpose, often unaware of what that purpose is, but deep down there is a tugging of the human mind and body to follow that journey from within.

What is your purpose?

Each person’s purpose is unique to them and I believe agree to long before they enter the human body.  Our purpose sets the course of our life and all others that we touch.  I believe we come together in our relationships for the purpose of assisting ourselves and others to really remember who we are and why we have come here.  We are waking each other up to our true essence.

Each of our experiences are moments for us to learn and remember the God within and the love and power we really are.

Anna’s words of wisdom are an inspiration to all of us.

Anna came into the world via in vitro fertilization, so that she would be a genetic match for her older sister Kate. Kate, the eldest daughter of the Fitzgerald family, was diagnosed with acute promyelocytic leukemia when she was 2 years.   When  Anna was born, her cord blood was donated to her sister, but when the leukemia returned, she then had to donate blood and bone marrow.

When Kate’s kidneys fail, Anna is expected to donate one of her own.  Isn’t this her purpose for being born?

Anna’s parents made the decision to create Anna for the purpose of saving Kate.

Whose purpose is it?  Who really has control over our purpose?

The enormity of these questions, answers and individual decisions is played out in this amazing drama, My Sister’s Keeper.  This is a story of a family struggling through the devastation of cancer.

Because cancer touches every aspect of life.  Every relationship is affected and often challenged.  Every feeling and emotion possible is present.  Finances, school, careers, decision making, home duties, spiritual life, etc. are all touched some times positively and sometimes negatively through a tragedy.

Throughout this story we see how these tough life choices affect each individual of the family.  Mom and dad have different viewpoints and needs and they struggle to keep their relationship together.  While the sole brother of the family seems to disappear in the background.

Cancer or any loss or tragedy can tear a family apart.

Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.

They smile when they wan t to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.

They don’t take “no” for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.

They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.

Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.

Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.

HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

What does that mean?  “I love others! Even though I may not always love me.”

We are born into this universe from one source, I call God.  (Others use different words meaning the same thing)  We all come from the same source.  If we all come from the same source, we must be part of the whole, part of God.  If we are all part of God, we are all part of each other too.  This is where the wise teachers of the past, refer to for example, “We are all part of the body of Christ”.  Or ”We are all ONE”. 

We are all one if we came from the same ONE!

So how can we truly love another, child, friend, sister, mom……………….

If we don’t love ourselves………………….

It is the same thing, we are the same thing…….We are all one!

Next step is loving others unconditionally………………….. 

 At times we take the opportunity to grow from the experience and really experience the essence of who we are and the love we are.  These are the times we let go of the past and use it to make room for something else greater to come into our lives.  This is when everything clicks and it feels easy.  Life flows and we feel happy, centered and balanced.

Other times, we take the opportunity and the experience and hold onto it.  It becomes part of us.  We think about it over and over.  We talk about it and relive it.  We keep it alive in us.  Even when it is a very painful experience.  It is like we push against the very thing (or experience) that will set us free from our pain.  At some level we choose to fight against the experience and hang onto the pain it caused us. 

Why do we hang on to the stuff that hurts us?  This is the human dilemna.  Some how we think it serves us or we can’t let it go.

 As a mother I know unconditional love for my children.  They are an extension of us and we love them with all our hearts.  Even when they do something we disagree or are incredibly disappointed, we don’t stop loving them.  Our hearts ache for them and we love them.  This is unconditional love.

This is the love we are to experience for ourselves and for all others.  This is the love Jesus and all the teachers came to remind us of.  Through all the stories they are showing us the answer to our human dilemna.

Why is it so hard to remember?  Why is it so hard for us to love unconditionally?